Tuesday, March 16, 2010

Day 2

I went in this morning to talk with the Assistant Principle, who I don't think quite understands the nature of bullies as his solution was to have my Son tell the teacher immediately when the kid says something. I tried to point out in an email last night to him that if he did that the other children, who right now are letting him alone, may start targeting him as a snitch. He also had sort of an attitude about me sending him an email on it. Making statements like, "Unfortunately, I find out about the problems from you--a day or so after the fact." and " does not communicate to me that he is having a problem. Is he telling the teacher(s) in charge?" .

The tone of his email started to seem like accusations that my Son was not doing his job. His job, meaning the Assistant Principal. The funniest part is all of my emails have been kind and calm. I let them know I fully appreciate all they have done so far and how well they have tried to keep this other child from harming mine and then I simply fill them in on what had happened that day. His emails are so defensive, I guess he is just too used to being yelled at by parents to see when one isn't accusing him. However, I never let my children get away with making accusations to try to take the focus off of themselves if there was ever a problem yet here I am being forced to deal with someone who never learned that lesson... or so I thought.

This morning I walked into the school with my son and didn't even make it in the doorway when I was greeted by the Principal. She was standing there for a while waiting for me and my son to enter. The assistant Principal had forwarded the emails and she has taken over. She pulled us aside and adamantly told my son that she did not want him immediately tattling because she agreed with me that it would bring more trouble. She had alerted his teachers of the new protocol she is putting in place so they are aware and if an issue arises, such as he is given a message from that boy that he is going to beat my son up he is to stay in his seat when the bell rings and wait for all the students to leave. Then he is to go up and tell the teacher what happened. If he feels threatened at all when it is time to leave the school he is to go into the office,not out to the bus ring, and she will have an assistant walk him to my car. She let him know the importance of reporting the issues so that they had a paper trail on exactly what this child is doing or they are powerless.

It turns out she had to watch her brother get beat down by a bunch of bullies simply because he was smart. It's good to see some people will stand up and say NO MORE!